Friday, September 11, 2015

SOUL COACH TIP::: DID YOU DELETE MY COMMENT???



Sometimes we are afraid to speak up and ask why, and we bite our tongue instead. Sometimes we are afraid to stand up for ourselves during times of confusion, so instead we sit silently wondering why something happened instead of asking for clarification. If you are the type of person who does not stand up for yourself then you should benefit from this true story. It is what inspired me to write this SOUL COACH TIP.
So last night I received a private message in my facebook inbox from a fb friend, a staunch supporter of my posts, my groups, and they often ‘like’ and ‘comment’ on my facebook activity.  This person was inquiring whether or not I had deleted a comment they made on a post of mine.
This person was not rude or abrasive, yet they still managed to ask the question that was bothering them. They just came straight out and said “Did you delete the message I wrote on your post?”
and I said “Not at all... i'd never do such a thing. I welcome comments... good, bad, supportive, or not. It always adds to conversation. I have no issues with comments.
Of course I will not say the gender of the person, or will I say which post it was, because this SOUL COACH TIP is not about controversy it’s about sharing with you how someone else spoke up for themselves over social media without starting a war, but by simply asking their question out right.
The person got back and said “I don’t see it there, so the best way to know is to ask.
I didn’t just leave it at that, because truthfully I was now wondering which comment this person was referring to. I hadn’t seen it myself and I’m usually right on top of that stuff. My gut was telling me that the person left their comment somewhere else. So I checked one of my other groups and scrolled down to the old messages and saw their comment.
You see, I have more than one group on facebook. One is for my Soul Coaching business called CERISEFAIRFAX.COM, another is for healthy living called WE ARE HEALTH, and another is one that I created in commemoration of my cousin Dale, called DISOWN DEPRESSION, so I realized that this person left the comment in one of the groups but perhaps forgot which one.
I got back to them with the link to their comment and told them what I think happened, and we had a good cyber laugh. I thanked them for being such a great fb friend/supporter and for joining my groups. They came back and said “I have been supporting you longer than you know
We ended the conversation with love and respect, and a closer understanding of each other. I now know their sign, their occupation, their straightforwardness, and they too know that I will never delete their comment, unless I had a really good reason to, but I would be straight up about it. 
To be honest here, I have had a comment of mine deleted a couple of times. The first time I let it slide and kept my lips sealed because the person must have had their reasons. Actually, I don’t even remember now who it was that did it. More recently it happened for the second time. I wasn’t going to say anything, but I did, because I like this person and was concerned if I had said something inappropriate or offensive to them. Even though I know I am always mindful of what I say on people’s posts I still wanted to clarify.
Well the person got back to me and reassured me that I didn’t say anything inappropriate at all, but that the comment was something they just didn’t want to read because the words were echoing something they kept hearing over and over and they were tired of hearing it, so they deleted the comment.
Understandable, it’s their facebook page and they can do what they want, I do on my facebook page. At the end of the day I was just pleased that they were so straightforward about it and mature enough to admit it. Imagine if they said “huh, your message is deleted??? I don’t know how that happened!!!” hahaha, oh gosh, we all know one of those people who find it tough to fess up.
In any case, this SOUL COACH TIP is not to bash anyone, it’s to inspire everyone to speak up and not worry about how others are going to take them. Let’s face it, we’re on social media. We’re not in front of the person who we’re conversing with, and some of the people we don’t even know outside of social media, so at times expect it to get tricky to understand everyone’s motives behind what they do. Nevertheless, instead of wondering just ask.

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