Thursday, February 12, 2015

SOUL COACH TIP::: DEAL WITH IT

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SOUL COACH TIP::: DEAL WITH IT
Perhaps you have a friend on facebook who annoys you with their negative comments and lewd postings. It could be that you are upset that your co-worker does less of the work but gets better recognition. Maybe the teacher at the school where your child attends seems to have a hate on for you kid, well deal with it.

There is an entire barrage of things that could be written of what individuals in our society are going through, however, no matter the situation there is always one solution; DEAL WITH IT.

If your facebook friend annoys you then cut them off your friends list. I did that myself just the other day. I was friends with a dude who tagged me in sexually explicit videos on fb. The first one I just removed myself from the tag, but when I was tagged again the next day in a different video, which was still sexually explicit, I didn't bother doing anything else except unfriend him. I dealt with it.
I didn't write it all over my wall complaining about the dude and contacting him with rudeness, I just cut him off.
On my wall nobody can post anything without my approval first. My settings are on strict settings for reasons like that. I often have a lot of young teens check my page to read the horoscopes and SOUL COACH TIPS, and at the end of the day I don't want them checking my page and seeing something that may plant unnecessary seeds in their vulnerable minds, so again, my settings are set so nobody can post on my wall unless I read it first and permit it to be posted.

If your co-worker is getting accolades for work that you actually have done then deal with it and speak to someone about it. If you are afraid to sound immature and less of a team player, then handle things in a different fashion. Instead of going to your supervisor/manager/boss and complaining, simply say "After working with __________ on the project, I noticed that it's that type of work which really brings out my creativity. In fact I would like to work on more projects such as the last one. It's encouraging because my ideas on the last project helped to manifest such an awesome outcome and reap great rewards for the company."
So you're not complaining, but you are making the boss aware that the project was mainly your idea. In the midst of it all you are also asking to be used in a more productive way in the future and ultimately you dealt with it!

Having teachers pick on your kid(s) is a horrible feeling indeed. When my son, Tyre was in kindergarten, 15 years ago, his teacher was young and new and was given a larger class than she could handle.
My son was targeted, straight off the bat! Why? because he had energy. He was a happy boy with loads of love at home and was raised with love and respect. Well at school the class was out of control and very much undisciplined... the opposite from home. So obviously he took advantage of that in some ways I'm sure, I'm not one to say my son was the perfect student, but I will say he was pretty close to it.
Well I dealt with the teacher as best I could. I guess she mistook my kindness during all her daily complaints, because eventually her complaints turned into undue punishment towards my son. She started sending Tyre to the office every day. It was ridiculous. Due to her inability to take care of a large class, she deliberately got rid of the active children and sent them to the office every day. Not only my son was targeted, but four other boys were too. All active boys by the way... and I'm not one to add this part lightly, but they were all black kids.
Anyway, my son eventually started to get sent home every second day. At first I was satisfied to teach him at home. I figured he would learn a lot more from me than from some frazzled teacher. Nevertheless, it wasn't until he got suspended that I escalated the situation. I was irate!!! Him and a little girl got suspended for hugging in the dolly center. I asked why. The school said they have a 'no touching' policy.
Well, I dealt with it. I told my son the rules and explained how silly they were, but they are still the rules and he'd have to abide by them. He did, but the suspensions didn't stop. Furthermore, the school principal asked me to CONSIDER PUTTING MY SON ON MEDS because he was hyper!!! He was happy, not hyper!!!! Obviously I didn't do anything of the sort. Anyway, he was blamed for play fighting in the school field during recess, not real fighting, just him and his friends roughhousing like boys do, and was suspended numerous more times.
Well finally I had enough and sat down with the teacher to give her a piece of my mind. She ended up admitting that the problem is not really my son, but rather the kids he is hanging with that are the bad influence.
I knew the kids well, since they were babies, and in fact I was close friends with some of their moms. Our children were together often, and I never ever had an issue with the kids. In my opinion they too were being raised with love and respect.
I mentioned this to her, because she had no clue how close I was with the other moms, and then she started to back peddle and say "I guess the class is just too large and there are more active boys. I only have a co-op student here as help and..."
I abruptly stopped listening and cut her off. I said "deal with it! All these suspensions are going on my son's records and it is not fair to him. Deal with your class."
I ended Home Schooling Tyre for next three months and then let him go back to school for the remaining month of June to graduate out of kindergarten with his friends. A couple of years later I ended up transferring him out of the school completely. Once I did that he excelled. In grade six he was chosen to go to Alberta as an exchange student, which they only grant to the most well behaved students, six kids only could go. He was captain of the high school football team, and he also graduated with honours from high school. I don't take much credit at all. He dealt with it and made himself into an honest young man who has great respect from his peers and elders to this day.
I won't lie, during the times of him being targeted in kindergarten, I wanted to kick some butt! However, I dealt with it. I made the appropriate moves to get my son to the best education possible and away from teachers who forgot why they became teachers to begin with.

So whatever your situation is, deal with it. Do not wait for someone else to be your saviour. Take action, and if after you deal things you do not see positive results, then take action again. Eventually the light of day will come, the darkness will be lifted, and things will turn in your favour.
By the way, my daughter also graduated with honours and I didn't have to push, holler, yell or scream to remind my kids that an education is important.

If something is bothering you, DEAL WITH IT. Pull the roots out now while they are a bush, and do not wait until the roots grow stronger like a tree when it's next to impossible to pull out.

Love you!
-Cerise.


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